Thursday, April 3, 2014

Social Media Guard

This Coca-Cola commercial is a surprisingly eloquent (and humorous) commentary on our proclivity to live anti-social, social media driven lives.

Now, if only the Social Media Guard were real!  (And does anyone else find it ironic that the Social Media Guard looks a lot like the "cone of shame" in the movie "Up"?)

Thursday, December 19, 2013

How to marry yourself

Just in time for Christmas, it's the "I Married Me -- Self-Wedding in a Box" kit.  Truly, you can't make these things up.  Learn more about the phenomenon and how it misses the mark of what marriage is at the "Marriage in the News" column on

Tuesday, December 17, 2013

Marry someone who will suffer with you ...

Sometime around the 1,000 post on Unshakeable Hope, the combination of other writing projects for Ruah Woods, a busy schedule and the third trimester of pregnancy led to a major decline in daily blog posting. Actually, more than a decline, blog writing has completely disappeared during the last month. But I had to pop over to share this thought-provoking guest post by John Janaro on Arleen Spenceley's blog.

So much of marriage advice is the same -- go out on regular dates with one another, give 100% (not 50/50), pray together, etc. These are certainly important things to hear, but John Janaro's reflections on the wedding vows bring a refreshing and challenging perspective that we don't often hear. For example:
"Sickness and health...." Most healthy young people barely think about these words when they say them. This is not about chicken soup and colds. People can get really sick. Spouses have to be primary caregivers. If you're a woman, you will have health issues that your husband won't understand. If the husband becomes disabled and can't work, he will be emotionally shattered in a way that he will have difficulty communicating to his wife, or even admitting to himself. Disability is something we've learned a lot about in our marriage. But everyone faces health problems. If nothing else, people get older and they change physically and emotionally. And they suffer. It's important to marry someone who will suffer with you, and with whom you are willing to suffer. There's nothing "romantic" about the daily, ordinary, often banal suffering that you will have to share. But it's there that your love grows as trust, commitment, and fidelity. But this is not a cold thing. A real and deep affection is born within this love. You begin to see the other person more deeply.

You can read the rest at Arleen Spenceley's blog here.

Friday, November 15, 2013

Another case of "Don't trust that headline!"

Perhaps you've seen the news that China is "relaxing" or "easing" or "ending" their one-child policy?  Most people don't realize that China still has a one-child policy to which they strictly adhere.  But in any event, upon closer examination, we see that China is not ending their policy.  They are barely "relaxing" it.  Instead, China will now allow couples of whom the mother or father is an only child to have two children.

That's right, it's a modified two child policy.  

Certainly, it's a modified victory for those couples who thought they could only legally have one (and to illegally become pregnant is to face forced abortion, fines and other punishments), but it's no reversal of the hideous policy.  Rather than praise China for their newly found leniency, we should continue to challenge them to embrace life and to see the negative effects of limiting children across the country for now and in the long term.  

The possibility of having two children reintroduces concepts such as, "aunt," "uncle," and "cousin" to the nationwide vocabulary, but it's not good enough, and we can't settle for this "concession" as a massive victory.

Wednesday, November 13, 2013

Looking for life in Auschwitz

A story of hope and life in the midst of the devastating brutality of Auschwitz has recently been told in the National Post.

Miriam Rosenthal was four-months pregnant, starving, bone-tired, cold, filthy and afraid when an SS officer in big black boots and a crisp uniform appeared before the barracks in Auschwitz with a loudspeaker in hand.

All pregnant women line up, he barked. Line up, line up — your food portions are being doubled.

“Can you imagine?” Miriam asks. “Even women who were not pregnant stepped forward. I was standing with my younger cousin, but I wouldn’t go. She says, ‘Miriam, what are you doing?’ ”

“Something was holding me back. Someone was watching over me. I feel maybe my mother, maybe God. Two hundred women stepped forward and 200 women went to the gas chamber. And I don’t know why I didn’t step forward.

Read the whole story here.

Thursday, October 31, 2013

Quote book

"True love, love that is interiorly full, is one in which we choose a person for his own sake; thus in it a man chooses a woman and a woman a man not merely as a 'partner' for sexual life, but as a person to whom he or she wants to give his or her life." -- Bl. John Paul II in "Love and Responsibility"